Think
about the reason for your mental un-restlessness or the anxiety building up.
When life throws in challenges at people, it is more important for us to hold
our grounds and stay strong during these periods. But all of your mental
balance depends on the kind of people that you surround yourself with.
As
important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly
toxic people will never be worth your time and energy—and they take a lot of each.
The importance of identifying the people around you and
staying away from the commotion which will only mentally unstable you is
immense. Intentionally or sometimes not, toxic people are the ones who drain
you out mentally and emotionally to an extent where you revert to self-pitying
and self-doubting.
How do you identify
these class of people who make you feel miserable, which is sometimes distinct
but not always? How do you steer clear of these toxic people in your life? Here
are the 10 types of toxic people that you must try to keep away, at least
during your down time, while you rejuvenate.
1.The Fault Finder
Some people gloat when they find some fault in another.
They don’t hesitate to point it out, rubbing salt into the wound. Their
negative behavior only gets worse when they were actually right about something
going wrong. Their favorite phrase just may be ‘I told you so!’ There may even
be a triumphant gleam in their eye instead of genuine sympathy.
You would also be able to pinpoint such people when
you’ve actually accomplished something good. They would be the ones lurking on
the sidelines, giving cursory and polite remarks. True appreciation and
happiness in other people’s success do not interest them much.
In fact, you would find them poking holes in your success
or joy. For instance, if someone has just had a baby, the fault-finders would
find something wrong with it. They are the ones who would berate a mother from
having a C-section instead of a vaginal birth. Alternatively, they would criticize
the baby’s looks, gender, habits, and a million other things.
The solution to these people is probably to stay away
from them. You might be brave enough to snap back at them, but they’re not one
to cease their nit-picking. They would only serve to make you unhappy even in
your most joyous moments.
It is best not to worry about what such toxic individuals
think, do or say about you. They are probably this way because of their own
insecurity or personal peculiarities. Actually, you may want to consider
pitying them but at a distance. Preferably, a very long distance.
2. The Temperamental
Some
people have absolutely no control over their emotions. They will lash out at
you and project their feelings onto you, all the while thinking that you’re the
one causing their malaise. Temperamental people are tough to dump from your
life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for
them. When push comes to shove though, temperamental people will use you as
their emotional toilet and should be avoided at all costs.
3. People Playing the Victim Game
There
are people out there who don’t want to be helped – they might look like they
need help, but they don’t really want to be helped – they just want to play the
victim game so that you will feel sorry for them.
Pity
is the energy they feed with. And by you pitying them, they are in fact taking
energy out of your body and your own life and using it in a way that’s not
really beneficial for any of you. So please, take your energy back and stay away
from these toxic people.
4. The Energy Vampire
After
spending time with this person, you feel drained. The conversation usually
revolves around their problems and complaints. They will provide an emotional
“dump†on you in order to release and feel better. Problem is, that energy ends
up making a withdrawal from your energy reserve, and you have nothing left to
give after. If you are consistently exhausted after spending time with someone,
know that the consequence is that you will have nothing left to give yourself
and the people you love.
5. The Judgmental
These are
the people who will judge you and everyone for everything that you go and do.
Do or don’t, the judgemental have a unique perspective angle which will make
them see everyone in equally negative angles. Identifying these people is very
easy as you can easily tell by the way they talk to you about others. If they
are too judgemental of everyone else when around you, they might be doing the
same thing to you when you’re not around.
People are
often quick to jump to conclusions but that simply doesn’t make one
judgemental. Severe and repeated criticism of everything that does not match up
to their own tastes and beliefs is what makes one a judgemental. Someone
different from themselves or their views is looked down upon by these people.
Due to poor listening or due to being close-minded, their judgementalism is
definitely something you would not want to look up to.
6. Gift givers
We all like to receive a nicely wrapped gift.
And gift givers know this very well. As a result, they use this “trick†to
control and manipulate us by offering us a gift, after gift, after gift. Why?
Because they know that by doing so, we will feel as though we are indebted to
them, which makes it easy for them to control and manipulate us. Clever, right?
7. Gossipers
You don’t have to be a genius to understand that if someone
talks badly about others with you, they talk badly about you with other people.
It’s a pattern. And if you value your peace of mind, your happiness, and
well-being, you will stay away from these toxic people.
8. Complainers
We all have ups and downs and we all have moments when we
want to talk to somebody about our problems. But to be around someone who
complains nonstop about everything and everyone, that is exhausting.
Complainers take the life out of your life by constantly pointing out what is
wrong with the whole world. And if you value your health, sanity, happiness,
and well-being, you should stay away from these types of people.
9.
Two-Faced Chameleon
There
would be some people in the world who just put on a new face according to their
situation. There’s no harm in having a different persona for work, home, and
social activities. However, two-faced people are those hypocritical entities
who merely pretend to be your friend. When you run your back, they’d be
snuggling up to your enemy and maybe plotting against you. Maybe it’s not
always this dramatic, but hypocrites should not be one of the people you
interact with every day. You can soon spot them by the way they’re always
looking out for their own interest. They may profess to be your everlasting
friend one day and deeply cut you the next. Beware of them, for they can get
you deeply depressed if you count on them.
10. Compulsive Liar
We all have lied at some point or another. However, there
are some especially toxic individuals who just can’t seem to help but lie on
every occasion. This may be a twisted form of kleptomania, only they steal the
truth wherever they see it. You would have to have some experience with a
compulsive liar in order to recognize them. They may be lying about something
as trivial as why they have to go somewhere. These lies could pile up and turn
into something serious. In fact, they could break the foundation of any relationship.
As important as it is to learn how to deal with different kinds of people, truly toxic people will never be worth your time and energy—and they take a lot of each.
The importance of identifying the people around you and staying away from the commotion which will only mentally unstable you is immense. Intentionally or sometimes not, toxic people are the ones who drain you out mentally and emotionally to an extent where you revert to self-pitying and self-doubting.
How do you identify these class of people who make you feel miserable, which is sometimes distinct but not always? How do you steer clear of these toxic people in your life? Here are the 10 types of toxic people that you must try to keep away, at least during your down time, while you rejuvenate.
1.The Fault Finder
Some people gloat when they find some fault in another. They don’t hesitate to point it out, rubbing salt into the wound. Their negative behavior only gets worse when they were actually right about something going wrong. Their favorite phrase just may be ‘I told you so!’ There may even be a triumphant gleam in their eye instead of genuine sympathy.
You would also be able to pinpoint such people when you’ve actually accomplished something good. They would be the ones lurking on the sidelines, giving cursory and polite remarks. True appreciation and happiness in other people’s success do not interest them much.
In fact, you would find them poking holes in your success or joy. For instance, if someone has just had a baby, the fault-finders would find something wrong with it. They are the ones who would berate a mother from having a C-section instead of a vaginal birth. Alternatively, they would criticize the baby’s looks, gender, habits, and a million other things.
The solution to these people is probably to stay away from them. You might be brave enough to snap back at them, but they’re not one to cease their nit-picking. They would only serve to make you unhappy even in your most joyous moments.
It is best not to worry about what such toxic individuals think, do or say about you. They are probably this way because of their own insecurity or personal peculiarities. Actually, you may want to consider pitying them but at a distance. Preferably, a very long distance.
2. The Temperamental
3. People Playing the Victim Game
Pity is the energy they feed with. And by you pitying them, they are in fact taking energy out of your body and your own life and using it in a way that’s not really beneficial for any of you. So please, take your energy back and stay away from these toxic people.
4. The Energy Vampire
5. The Judgmental
People are often quick to jump to conclusions but that simply doesn’t make one judgemental. Severe and repeated criticism of everything that does not match up to their own tastes and beliefs is what makes one a judgemental. Someone different from themselves or their views is looked down upon by these people. Due to poor listening or due to being close-minded, their judgementalism is definitely something you would not want to look up to.
